Agency is a gift and a responsibility. Sometimes we are afraid to make choices, because we risk failure and/or pain and we are tempted to shift that responsibility onto others or even onto God, for them to make the decision for us and tell us what to do. When we do so we not only reject the gift of freedom to choose, we also deny ourselves an opportunity for growth. It also goes the other way, it means we cannot force others or try to make them do as we wish, even when we see they’re headed for disaster. We can only change ourselves.